“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” -Philippians 4:8
Thanks to Jesus, God sees us like this. And thanks to your heart, when you are in love, this is how you see the loved one. You become more beautiful when you love. It is the vision of hope, the promise of tomorrow.
If you look for what is wrong, what is out of place, what must be improved, you are probably an excellent parent, but to allow clear air, you need to lie so that you can praise too. Lie is not precisely what is meant, but love includes forgiveness. Children feel intense shame at times, and need to have a path that they can follow where they move on from feeling shame to feeling redeemed.
Not everything will work, and you will want to fix it so that it does. But although you can criticise and break things down to actions where they should work, the glue of praise is needed to put things together and orient them correctly. Which probably is why God gave us Jesus.